Friday, November 18, 2016

When Negativity Strikes.

Mood on October 18, 2016:

Please don't judge me, I am on a negative mode today: because I am tired of ignoring negativity and tired of being positive amidst people who doesn't know what positivity is!

Disclaimer 🚫: positive people please don't read it!

There is a limit to everything, there is a limit to negativity, to anger, to show offs, ego, greed, hypocrisy and jealousy; and then there is this tolerance level - and trust me, mine has almost touched the sky!

Shouting aloud about what you have done for other people; telling them how grateful they should be; having an intention of embarrassing and making the other person feel low; forgetting other people's help and all good deeds; claiming that you are a good person; claiming that you are spiritual and chant 1000 prayers everyday; makes you no less than people who do nothing for you and in fact even worst than them!

Please wake up and stop barking! Live and let live: many doesn't get this chance; please don't let God regret for creating you! 🙏🙏🙏 Thank you very much!

P.S: There are many types of negative energy, some could be just ignored, some could be even smiled at and let it go, but this time this one was not something i could just ignore or let go. 

May Peace Prevail on Earth (Prayers).

Thursday, November 17, 2016

My Forty Before Forty is here finally!

Can't believe it's already time to make my 40 before 40. Phew, definitely feeling so old (Laughing Out Really Loud with Blurred Eyes). Nevertheless, feeling much wiser, much better and better in all ways,  much stronger, much happier and content. Many things have changed,  I am certainly not the person I used to be. I am more calm, more matured, more learned and much kinder. I don't have any wrinkles yet, my face doesn't show any signs of aging, I feel happy, I feel grateful.  More importantly, I realize nothing is for free, you have to earn everything and the charm of earning it is incredible. From simple things like money, vacation to bigger ones like respect, change and love, everything requires your hard work, determination and positive energy. As I turned 30 this October, I believe I have the potential to be more better, make differences and raise higher. Ok then, my 40 before 40 is here:

I. Self Awareness/Development and Growth:

1. Be an Active Blogger. Publish at least an article every month (more on personal development and growth) making it 120 articles eh? (Failed miserably here in 2017 :( - gonna work harder)

2. Make Self Care a Priority (taking care of my own inner development and growth, physical health, fitness, beauty, habits, everything that makes a difference to me). Improve my Eye Sight - YESSS!

3. Develop a regular, serious Meditation and Yoga habits; Pray Every day; YESSS! Go on a Meditation Retreat.

4. Read and Buy a lot of Books, at least a book every month like always. That would make 120 books in 10 years?


    1. November: The Girl You Left Behind - Jojo Moyes
    2. December: A Place Called Here - Cecelia Ahern 


   3. January: To the boys i have loved before - Jenny Han
   4. January: P.S I Still Love you - Jenny Han
   5. May: Mrs. Funnybones - Twinkle Khanna
   6. May: How The Secret Changed my Life- Rhonda Byrne
   7. June: You can heal your life - Louise Hay 
   8. June: The Power Rhonda Byrne (For the third time)
   9. June: The Magic Rhonda Byrne
 10. August: Brida - Paulo Coelho
 11. September: Milk and Honey - Rupi Kaur
12. October:
13. November: Never Born, Never Died - Osho
14. December: 


15. A Little Light on the Spiritual Laws - Diana Cooper

5. Visit or see H.H the Dalai Lama in real. (The only person I dream of seeing in person since a child)

6. Start a Recurring Deposit (in other words start saving a little (Laughs)) YESSS!

7. Stay Positive in all situations. Complain lesser about everything. Practice Gratitude. YESSS!

8. Visit a New Place you have not been to, every year.

    1. November:  Chimi Lhakhang, Punakha (Was on my 'place to visit' list :))

    1. February: Darjeeling and Sikkim, India
    2. April - June: 10 new gewogs :)  and Bukay Dham in Samtse 
    3. June: Pedong Goempa, Kalimpong
    4. September - Yogyakarta, Indonesia

   1. January: Lumbini and Halesi Mahadev in Nepal :)
   2. Cooch Behar Palace in India

9. Write and Publish a Book.

10. Ride a Horse/a Camel just for a short time (not tire the poor soul though). I am striking this off because the more I think about it, the more cruel I find it. Why, have fun in the expense of someone's pain. Instead, Why not have a Tattoo or Donate Blood or run a Marathon? Yes :)

11. Buy and Drive a SUV: I always loved big cars (LOL) YASSS 2017 :)

    12. Plan a Holiday Destination to Venice, Bali or anywhere nice/silent/romantic and surrounded by water.

      13.  Find or be in a Job where I am truly happy and enjoy myself.

      14. Find a Lone Time once in a well and spend it well.

    15. Spend lesser time on Social Media (No phone in bed, while eating, during gatherings, while talking, in public, etc.)
      16.  Work on my bad Temper and overly Sensitive nature; Cry less.

      17.  Don't talk about anyone Behind their Back.

      18.  Don't Judge People.
      19. Work hard, stay Determined and Focused.

      20. Stop Procrastination and work on Time Management.

      21. Pursue Poetry: I realized lately, I am quite Poetic too :P

      22. Be a Morning Person.

      23. Keep every Mondays Meat/Alcohol/Tobacco/Egg free. I am a vegetarian now, don't have to worry about it anymore. :)
      24. Learn Swimming finally. Play more Water Sports.
     25.  Create my dream home (a Vast Collection of Good Books, Beautiful decorative pieces, plenty of flowers and indoor plants, Exotic Furniture, Best TV Set and Music System, Best Home Appliances, etc etc.. :-P)
      26. Live life every day, savor every seconds.

II. For Family, Friends, Loved ones:

27. Take Family for a Trip outside Bhutan :) YESSS (My dream Trip) Nepal Trip - Jan, 2018 ; Cooch Behar - Feb 2018.

28. Buy good gifts, show love & appreciation, visit and spend time with Family and close friends more often.

 29. Celebrate every loved ones birthday with love. Surprise them and make their day memorable.

30. Be there for Loved Ones when they are in need of you. Pray for them, Wish good for them, Think well of them. Support, Help and Guide them with all your heart.

III. In Pursuit of being a Good/Better Being:

      31. Volunteer and donate for Good Causes and Make a Difference in someone's life; Get gifts for unknown little kids and make them happy. (without any expectations)   YASSS :)

      32. Buy School Uniforms for 50 needy Students. Bought 7 school bags for the kids :) - 2018

      33. Buy Food for 50 hungry People - three done :)

      34. Be polite with everyone every day, Help and Support people as much as possible.

      35. Do an act of Kindness every day without expecting anything in return.
     36. Visit a Monastery every month and pray for all sentient beings :) I love the idea of 108 koras lately (want to do 108 koras of as many monasteries as possible) - added on Dec 1, 2017 
IV. Into Nature

37. Go on a Trekking/Hiking/Camping. 


    1. Camping, Zomlingthang, Punakha (November 19)

38. Buy a DSLR camera and Pursue my interest in Photography. YES, Yay , my sister gifted me a D3400 Nikon DSLR. I know, I am blessed :) 

39. Sleep under the stars.


    1. Slept under the stars; watching and counting them (November 19 - Zomlingthang, Punakha)

40. Get closer and deeper into the heart of nature: Love, Appreciate and Spend time with nature.

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

A day that was ...... (September 21, 2016)

8:45AM: I meet a middle aged man as I walk down my home staircase. I don't know him, he smiles at me kindly as he sees me. As I smile back, I believe in humanity and i want to do better.😇😇😇
9:15AM: I call an official for a work which she is responsible for and then I get served with her morning mood. Literally shouting over the phone, she keeps me wondering if she had a fight or got served with her boss' morning mood too. Getting shouted at when I have no idea what wrong i did, I lose faith in humanity and then I just wanna be like her 👿👿👿

10:00AM: I randomly share about how I forgot some rules after being out of touch for a year. My supervisor nods his head and acknowledges it and apologizes for not giving me enough time to go through them. As I believe good people exist, I wanna be a very good person as well and work harder.
10:30AM: Something totally unexpected and unusual happens in office. I keep wondering and thinking with the clouds 💭 Embarrassed 😳, My reactive mind already checked out the BBS job announcements for a new job. 👿😆👀
11:45AM: A family who is sick is waiting for me to take him to the hospital. My mother tells me how important and useful I am to my family with a choking voice. My family has faith on me. I feel more responsible, I feel human and I wanna do more.
12:30PM: A man is lying on a green bed in the hospital all oxygenated, unconscious and has a swollen stomach. Someone sits beside him. She is healthy, pretty and young; she tells me (someone she saw for less than a min) she is tired of taking care of the patient. She explains she has been there for a day, and wonders how her mother bore it for months. And then I come to know that the person on the bed is in fact her father. That leaves me broken, I wonder what kind of world we are living in? What is more important than your parents after all. 😒😠🤔
6:00PM: I enter home. With the aroma of my favorite tea flavor and the smell of home, I feel happy. As I relax, my sister gets me a cup of tea and gives me a good massage. Such love, that I want to forget everything and be something more than everyone else.
6:30PM: I scroll down my Facebook feeds and then see the saddest news of the day. The Angelina Jolie and Brat Pitt divorce. Baam 💣 And all that happened was nothing after all, finally I realize nothing last forever! ☹️😞😭

Sunday, May 1, 2016

*The story of my exam week*

I talk to myself every night;
The time is 2 AM ~ tick tock tick tock~
it doesn't stop while I plan ~
So I decide, I am waking up at 9 and I count the hours with my fingers and disagree ~ that's just 7 hours; 
OK 10 AM it is then. And in the next 10 minutes I am in my dreamland.

Next day at 11 (since I always wake up an hour after the alarm) I start counting hours again, for study - OK 10 hours since I have nothing else to do.
I take a shower, look at the time again, it's 12:16; I want it to be 12:30, so I watch some videos or listen to some music (which appears extraordinarily interesting around this time) which normally doesn't end at 12:30 and then I have to wait for the next round number; 1. 

So many silly things happen in between ~ I take a nap, I eat more than three meals a day; I clean my nails, my ears; a little pain here and a little pain there; I see an extra growth of my eye brow, I look in the mirror to remove it; end up removing my blackheads and searching for pimples instead; I scroll Face book and Instagram feeds 10 times in few hours (I log them off actually, since its really distracting but in few hours when I realize, I would have already logged in again); I play piano tiles and surprisingly, during this time, I somehow become a champion and a lot of music gets unlocked and I play for hours  and I don't realize how fast the time flies. I waste more than half of the study time simply not studying.

And it's time for me to plan for the another day again :( 

I know I have been like this for the last 20 years maybe; yet I don't want to change, because life is so beautiful as it is :) Too much of planning; doing nothing as per the plans; a bit of stress & madness later; and finally I know all will be well again :)

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

~My Hero ~ “The Great Fourth” (An Essay)

I cannot think of any better and more deserving person to write on this topic at this particular time. The kingdom of Bhutan recently completed the festivity of the 60th Birth Anniversary of her Fourth King, His Majesty Jigme Singye Wangchuk. The entire year of 2015 was dedicated to celebrate the prosperous reign of the dynamic, farsighted and a selfless leader. The king, who has given his all for his country and his people, led a war so that his people are safe and gave up his power so that his people remain empowered; such is my king, such is my hero.
His Majesty Jigme Singye Wangchuck popularly known as “The Great Fourth” or "The Father of the Nation” was born on 11th November, 1955 corresponding to the Wood Female Sheep year of the Lunar Calendar to their Majesties King Jigme Dorji Wangchuck and Ashi Kesang Choden Wangchuck. We, Bhutanese, believe that his birth was a realization of a religious prophesy which was declared more than three centuries ago; a sacred reincarnation destined to safeguard the nation and take care of his people. True to this prophesy, he was barely 17 years old when his father passed away and at such an early age he was forced to shoulder the daunting responsibilities of steering the nation into modern progress. And when he ascended the Golden Throne on 2nd June 1974, he became the youngest monarch in the world.
         The present king, His Majesty Jigme Khesar Namgyel Wangchuck time and again mentions that, "There was never a King like the 4th King and there will never be one hereafter." His reign was unique considering not only the conditions of his accession to the throne and departure, but also the nature of the policies he pursued during the thirty four years. How Bhutan stands proudly in the world today is all because of His Majesty's miraculous contributions and in a way it has all been unique.      
         In 2005, he received the 'Champions of the Earth' Award from United Nations Environment Programme for his outstanding work to enhance the protection of natural resources and keeping environment preservation at the center of country's constitution. Besides many development activities during his Majesty’s rule, there are three important milestones I would like to discuss in depth in this paper, which makes him not only my hero but the hero of the nation. Firstly, his noble contribution of sacrificing his power to empower his people. Secondly, his prioritizing of the happiness and wellbeing of his people over the economic development of the country. Thirdly, his brave and fearless role in safeguarding his people and the country.
       While, in today's world, leaders are trying protect their power and maintain it for their own interests, in a tiny kingdom like ours, the great king has always prioritized his people and empowered them. In 1998, His Majesty initiated the process of administration decentralization to involve the people intensively in the planning and implementation of the development activities by handing the executive power to the Council of Ministers.
        Another major stride was taken during his reign, when he announced that time has come for the Kings to hand over the control of government to the people. "Democracy is a gift from the golden throne", say most Bhutanese. The first constitution of the country was also initiated. Soon after on December 14, 2006, at the age of 51, he announced his immediate abdication and the transfer of the throne to his son Jigme Khesar Namgyal Wangchuck. It was the first time in world history that a monarch, who was initially vested with absolute powers, voluntarily reduced the scope of these powers and eventually abdicated with no other reason than his own dedication to political reforms. (Thierry Mathou, 2008). Finally in 2008, Bhutan saw her first parliamentary elections and a new system of governance with a new king.
        Further, the Gross National Happiness (GNH), the unique development philosophy that the world knows Bhutan for was also propounded by His Majesty in 1974. The farsighted leader long before realized that materialistic approach to development could never be a substitute for happiness. "King Wangchuk said that instead of relying on Gross Domestic Product as the best indicator of Bhutan's progress, it should instead consider its GNH. That was to be measured by its peoples' sense of being well-governed, their relationship with the environment, satisfaction with the pace of economic development, a sense of cultural and national belonging", reported Dean Nelson (March, 2011).
        This philosophy not only introduces Bhutan as a peaceful and a happy country to the rest of the world, it also takes care of its individual citizen's wellbeing. The great king believed that happiness is the ultimate desire of every citizen and that it must be the purpose of development to create the enabling conditions for happiness. Today, despite Bhutan being a low income developing country, every citizen is provided with the amenities of free education, free health care, free land distribution for people who are living under poverty hence, reducing the poverty rate at its minimal. This approach to improving people’s wellbeing is unique and partially explains the heroic dynamism of the King.
           Another landmark made by the Father of the nation, in the history of Bhutan was when insurgent groups from India namely; United Liberation Front of Assam (ULFA) and National Democratic Front of Bodoland (NDFB) threatened the sovereignty and territorial integrity of Bhutan for almost a decade. The life and property of the people living in the south eastern and south western borders of the country became unsafe. His Majesty tried several times to have peaceful negotiations with these militants but to no avail. As a result, in December 2003, he initiated and led what was called 'Operation All Clear' that impelled all the insurgents living in illegal Camps in the foothills of Bhutan to leave and peace to the country was restored once and all. The King demonstrated that he was a leader who can risk his life for his people and country. That, as well, makes him a hero.
             I could state thousands of achievements the King has made and many reasons why he is my hero if I was allowed to go on and on. Nonetheless, the three main reasons above give a clear basis on why I consider His Majesty Jigme Singye Wangchuk, the Forth king of Bhutan as my hero. His compassion and wisdom can only be compared with that of the Buddhas and Bodhisattvas.

 P.S- This Essay was written as a part of my Masters Degree Course as my final paper :)