Saturday, November 14, 2015

Essay For Same Sex Marriage

Same sex-marriage is one of the most controversial and sensitive issues of recent times. According to the U.S Legal, Inc., “same-sex marriage also known as gay marriage or homosexual marriage is a ceremonial union of two people of the same sex; marriage or marriage-like relationship between two women or two men.” Although reports indicated that as of June 2015, some 21 countries have legalized same-sex marriage nationwide, there are still many countries debating over this issue explained Waxman (2015). Millions of people still think that gay people have no right and should never be allowed to be legally recognized in marriage. Amongst many, the main argument placed by these millions of people who oppose the legalization of same sex-marriage is the belief that couples of the same sex getting married would redefine the meaning of marriage, thus harming the institution of traditional marriage.
     However, there are others who believe that gays are just like anyone else and should enjoy the same rights and privileges as heterosexuals; I am one of them. The argument of gay marriage harming the institution of traditional marriage is simply an over exaggeration. The ability of same-sex couples to get married will not alter a single aspect of heterosexual marriages in any way. 
     In the same way, like it is natural for us to fall in love with the opposite sexes, in my humblest opinion, it is also natural for people of the same gender to fall in love. They are born that way despite the differences in their personality. Studies have shown that being gay is not a lifestyle but genetically determined.  Zing (2014) reported on a topic titled, 'Scientists discovered new evidence of ‘gay gene’', "researchers analyzed blood and saliva samples from 409 pairs of brothers (including non-identical twins) over a period of five years, looking for shared locations of genetic markers called Single Nucleotide Polymorphisms[1] (SNPs).  They found  five SNPs commonly shared by the gay men, all clustered in two distinct locations on separate chromosomes."  
     Therefore, from the comments as mentioned earlier, I support same-sex marriage because of the following reasons: equality, harmless to heterosexual marriage, love and happiness, and procreation. The first reason for supporting same sex-marriage is because I believe every human being was born equal and has the right to be treated equally. Every person has the right to live their lives as and how they want, they have the right to take their  decisions and make their choices about their life. The first article of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights states that, “All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights.” We, being fellowmen must respect each others differences and opinions. 
     Secondly, same-sex marriage does not harm or hurt heterosexual marriage neither does they take away their marriage rights. In a Same-Sex Marriage Debate video: Gallagher vs. Corvino, hosted by the Wayne State University, on October, 25 2012, it was argued that giving marriage right to gay couples do not mean taking away the right of marriage from straight people and it do not mean either that the number of straight marriages will be lessened. The legal rights and benefits of heterosexual couples are completely unaffected by the existence of gay marriage. It is not as if straight couples will suddenly stop loving each other or start treating their children badly should same-sex marriage be legalized.
     My third reason for supporting same-sex marriage is because marriage is about love, happiness and commitment more than anything else. As long as they are comfortable and happy being with each other and sharing their lives together, they shouldn’t be deprived of their happiness. In the above video, John Corvino mentioned that gay people find happiness in same sex relationship which is one of the fundamental attributes for getting married. Marriage does many good things to people in many ways from maintaining social status to doing a funeral and even getting a citizenship. So, no one should be deprived of this beautiful relationship.
      The final reason for supporting same-sex marriage is the issue of children. Some people also argue that same-sex couples can’t have children. In a video titled, the real modern family, (Sep 29, 2010) the popular gay couple, Tod Hollands and Scotch Ellis Loring received the help of a surrogating agency in having their own biological children. This agency helps members of both heterosexual couples and gay and lesbian couples in becoming biological parents. How this work is, the prospective parents would pick up an egg donor and search for a surrogate; this is done so that the surrogate doesn't get emotionally and biologically connected with the child. Looking at gay parents take care of the children, it is like the whole concept of a family has been re-written. Nowadays, parenting is not just about male and female, but about adults having good heart and love towards their children.
     In conclusion, I would like to restate that my opinion of same-sex-marriage is in support of it. The reasons being, firstly, every human being should be treated equally; second, same-sex marriages don’t harm heterosexual relationships; third, marriage is about love and commitment and finally procreation. Therefore, People should not be selfish and just think about themselves; they should look beyond the traditional way of thinking and open their minds to freedom of choice for everyone.

[1] is a DNA sequence variation occurring commonly within a population (e.g. 1%) in which a single nucleotide — A, T, C or G — in the genome (or other shared sequence) differs between members of a biological species or paired chromosomes.

P.S- This Essay was written as a part of my Masters Degree Course :)

Thursday, June 25, 2015

My FIRST Bloggers' Meet ^ ^

Bloggers Meet
Venue: IBEST
DAY: Wednesday (June 24, 2015)

Bloggers of Bhutan :) Pic Courtesy - Rima Reyka
 My first one, thrilled but equally nervous, I accepted the request of an excellent blogger friend, Riku to attend the meet on face book. If not for anything, I thought I would get to drink with people with at least one common interest of reading and writing. :P

On a serious note, I couldn't afford to miss it at all,  it was an opportunity to meet amazing people whom I will categorize into three here:
1.  Great people whose writings I have been following;
2. People like me who just write when time permits/emotions flow;
3. young aspiring bloggers who would like to take up blogging seriously.

No matter how hard I tried, even after giving myself some confidence pills, I really couldn't think of facing the crowd alone, so I dragged my sister along, agreeing with her blackmailing of, "you will have to listen to whatever I say from now on" (she never misses a chance to blackmail me though), grabbed some bottles of wine and beer (Since we were asked to :P) and reached the venue at 6:45PM.

Ah, Introductory session again! Phew, Why is it always this hard? Why is it so easy for some people, they can just go on and on. Singing out loud with that hoarse voice of mine in front of my sister and my cousin (I don't sing at all) seemed much easier than saying my name and where I work to a crowd there. Sigh! Totally nervous I was.

Interactions started then:  First encounter with Rekha Monger. We met at the door, we exchanged our hellos and she asked me who I am. While I introduced myself to her, I saw her nodding which I took it otherwise, I mean I thought maybe she knows me (we were college mates by the way), by the time I realized, my boneless tongue already had asked her, do you know me? She answered promptly, NO, only then I realized, I had just acted like some superstar. I wanted to laugh out right away , but I am quite decent with people I am not close to, so could control my laughter some way.  I know her, I mean had heard about her through some friends so I replied, I know you to her "do you know me?". It was so awkward that I ran to my sister and an old mate to share about it and we had a good laugh.

N I pose with my pre primary Friend Ugyen Lhendup :)
 It was quite interesting to know that, most of the avid bloggers were some way or the other associated to me in my life's journey. Some were mates from schools/college and I had a colleague too in the group. I met a friend from pre primary there, Ugyen Lhendrup (Glad I have an unique name- He recognized me right away).

Meeting Rima Reyka (from Singapore) in person was as amazing as I thought it would be.  She is one person who encouraged me to write and ever since we met on face book, we have always been in touch. She knows how to make friends and keep them. I admire the lady truly for inspiring and encouraging so many young people (Like me :P - a joke) to write. Many of the bloggers said they were at the meet because of her.

The after dinner and drinks session was more interesting. By then I was a little tipsy and I knew more people too. One thing I thoroughly enjoyed doing was laughing out loud with Rima and Lobsang sir, a man with marvelous skills, such an active teacher, like Dawa said, I would love to attend his classes too.

The most popular Bhutanese blogger (Passu), proud to state was my batch mate back in secondary school. He asked me, why do I still look so young? And pretending not to shy off, I told him I use a secret. :P

With great bloggers :) - Riku and Passu.

 I also had a beautiful time with Amrith sir. Overloaded with humor, he was the man who made me laugh too much last night. It was a proud moment to meet Madam Chador, the Author of popular La Ama in person and even more proud to be related to her husband. Yay, I am an author's relative. :P.

It was so nice and inspiring to see some students who were into blogging.  Like Lobsang sir mentioned, I never heard about a blog when I was a student. Thumbs up :) I also discovered, the Tharchen Tharchen whom I thought all these times was a member of parliament, because he looked so familiar, was a junior in college. LOL

All in all, I am totally humbled to be a part of the group. The meet made up for my reaching back home at mid night, disturbing my cousin, waking up and getting late to work and having to eat cup noodle for lunch .

Thank you very much organizers for the night.

Monday, June 1, 2015

Face book: Increasing negativity - a concern

A year ago, I deactivated my face book account for exactly a year; it wasn't entirely because of the reason many people thought it was, I decided to quit because, there was just too much negativity in it. I have seen people or rather say face book friends criticizing almost everything, losing temper, using unpleasant languages including vulgar ones, making personal attacks, increasing hate wars,  so on and so forth.

Though there is no doubt on face book being very advantageous in many ways, from keeping in touch with long distance friends/ not too close friends to news updates and recently it has become a more common online shopping platform including buying/selling of  second hand stuffs.

I also agree the negative comments shouldn't be taken too personally and let it affect you, but it does affect you, in some way or the other it affects your positivity, your mood and spoils your day.

Some tips on how to refrain yourself from such negativity:

1. Be kind:

Being kind is the most beautiful thing of living. When someone is kind to you, how does it feel? Me, I just feel so happy that I want to repay it back sooner. Many a times, I have seen this happen, a person comment negatively on something you have posted. Before posting such negative comments, don't people think at least once if the comment is rude and it could hurt the other person (and what would you get by hurting someone you don't even know or know much?). People are usually fighting hard battles and it's not cool to make a rude comment, sometimes you don't even mean it but it could hurt the receiver too badly. As a human, we all are expected to be kind and sensitive and help each other, instead of adding up negativity and distress on someone's life. 

2. Appreciate: 

In pictures - appreciate people's beauty, in writings - appreciate their afford and opinion. Instead of commenting on how big their nose is, how bad their photographic skills are or how awful their English writing is, how beautiful it would be to just appreciate what they are doing. Nobody is perfect neither you and I, it is by trying, we learn and encouraging people is the best support you can ever and always give.

3. Respect people's opinion:  

If people want to showcase their feelings via face book, let them do so, if they want to post what they are having for their breakfast, let them, or photos. I don't personally find anything wrong in there, it's their page let them do whatever they like doing, life's going to be so simple if you just respect their opinion instead of snapping them with too much of negative comments. If you don't like it, don't do it yourself.

I recollect this incidence of Mothers' day. Many of us posted photos of our mothers on our face book pages and wished them. I read few general negative comments saying that, it's showing off and it is not a platform to express our love for our mothers. Well, that's just not done, it's our way of doing it. When it's perfectly okay to wish your lovers on valentine's day and anniversaries on face book, why do people find it weird to wish your mother on face book on a mother's day? 

4. Ignore what you don't like:

Why would one like to comment on something he/she doesn't like. Isn't is cool to just ignore and focus on the things you like? Instead of wasting your time and energy on giving some one negative comments, simply ignore it and do something productive and positive. 

5. Be constructive in your criticism: 

There are times where criticisms are necessary, when they are just do it constructively. There's nothing wrong in giving your views when you don't agree to it. Don't make personal attacks. Once, I read a heart wrenching personal article which the writer had shared on one of the groups in face book; though many showed support and sadness there was one particular comment which attacked the author on his nationality and ethnic background in a very hurting way. When the comment had a very strong negative effect on me (a total stranger), I wondered how much pain it would have caused the author. Friends, let's just be more humane.

One time there were talks about setting up a slaughter house in the country, many people had their own views about it. There was one particular person on face book who cursed the project manager (probably the one who made the presentation about the project) so ruthlessly that his death was predicted. The person wrote, "Mr. ------ would be the first one to die when the next earthquake occurs".  This, I think is totally insane.

So, guys lets live peacefully and positively :) Happy Face Booking! Lets create a positive online platform.