In part 1 of my article, I have written about how worried I used to be about every little thing in life and how I suddenly realized I was just wasting my time and energy for absolutely nothing.
It wasn't something I achieved overnight or in a month or a year. It was something I worked for everyday. But once you realize that worrying is the problem, not the solution, you can regain control of your worried mind. I would like to share the following nine steps through which I conquered worries in my life:
1. Self Realization/ Awareness and Self-Monitoring:
The first and the foremost thing I did which helped me conquer worry was being aware of the existence of such habit in me. Many a times, when I worried about things, I knew that this was not normal and I should do something about it. So, every time I worried about something I questioned myself, is it really worth worrying? Am I just wasting my time? Will I achieve anything just because I worry about it? Or can I do something else about it? These questions I asked to myself helped me a lot to take better decisions and make good choices in life.
2. Talk about your problems with your loved ones:
The more you keep your problems/worries to yourself, the more complex it will become. I used to be the kind of person who hardly talked about my problems/worries to people, I somehow felt like it would create unnecessary troubles to others. I have a very supportive family and a very good bunch of friends who would listen to my worries anytime, yet I never did that. I usually spent my time alone during difficult times, I used to be the kind of person who cried behind the closed doors. I didn't realize how much of a torture I was giving to myself. I used to breakdown sometimes.
Slowly, I realized that keeping my troubles to myself can only double my worries. When I started sharing my problems with my loved ones, I realized how easy things could have been and I felt lighter. I could see promising solutions to my problems and my life became much easier. Not only that, my relationship with my loved ones also blossomed. :)